Every homeschool parent has been questioned by friends and strangers and asked if their decision to homeschool isn't a futile attempt to "shelter" their children from "real life." The inference being that they are foolishly sheltering their children. I read a Facebook posting from one homeschool mom who posted a news article exposing yet another teacher of sexual assault, she wrote, "Seriously? I almost want to start a file and fill it with links to all these stories and every time someone asks me why I feel like I should "shelter" my kids, I'm going to send it to them and ask them why they don't?" This comment prompted me to write a series on the subject, "Is public school a healthy place to socialize a child?" For this part one we will start with the question about sexual abuse in schools today and explore whether more parents ought to seriously consider sheltering their children from the risk.
It takes but a few minutes to find dozens of terrifying stories of sexual abuse that would leave any parent absolutely ill, which may be one reason we choose to believe the cases are isolated. Research for this part of my article left me physically sick and I had to set it aside for a few days. It's impossible to be unaffected by stories like the 6th grade teacher charged with committing lewd acts on a child and genital penetration by a foreign object, the middle school principle who raped a student in his office while the parents were just outside, multiple cases of teachers initiating group sex with students, and teachers tweeting naked pictures of themselves to students. There are dozens more as bad or worse than these, and at the center of everyone is a child victim.
Almost as disgusting, is the number of people I've found who make comments like, "this kind of sexual abuse is the dream of every 14 to 17 year old boy." The number of people out there with warped ideas like this shouldn't surprise me, after all, we live in a nation where every 30 minutes a porn video is made and 30,000 people are 'consuming' pornography every second. I believe it is logical to conclude that in some part the pornification of America is making its way into our public institutions. It is a common argument in favor of porn, that what happens in private has no bearing on public life, but people who believe that, need to wake up and pay attention to how it is affecting our children.
I believe the sexualization of our culture is weakening the ability of adults to protect children. Before you say that adults who rationalize or ignore the sexual abuse of children, are just creepy perverts in the shadows of our society, consider the legal protections for children that are breaking down over this issue? In 2012, the Arkansas Supreme Court says 18-year old students can have sex with their teachers, a loop-hole in a Maryland law allowed part-time teachers have a sex with students, and a Texas court says sexting between student and teacher is protected by free speech. It makes you wonder if our society has the moral fortitude to tackle the rash of sexual abuse in schools today.
So, am I blowing it out of proportion? How common is Sexual Abuse in schools anyway? Is this list a misrepresentation of the danger? The best study we have to estimate the scope of sexual abuse in public schools, reports that more than 4.5 million students are subject to sexual misconduct by an employee of a school sometime between kindergarten and 12th grade. That is 10% of children, which is why it so disturbs me when parents I know are uncomfortable when I post these stories of sexual abuse. One friend felt the need to remind me that, "Most teachers are dedicated, hard-working people who wouldn't dream of hurting a child." Of course they are, but when I hear this argument I think, "What level of sexual abuse in school is tolerable? At what point should parents be concerned?" A CBS story got it right when they said, "Any institution that has allowed children to be harmed by predators deserves to be taken to task for it. No institution should get a pass. And no profession should get a pass. Not preachers, not priests — not even teachers."
I will admit that better studies are needed, but the political will to investigate the issue on a national scale doesn't seem to be there. Why not? Remember the political and media uproar in the nation when allegations of sexual abuse by Catholic Priests was uncovered? CBS news reported that, "During the first half of 2002, the 61 largest newspapers in California ran nearly 2,000 stories about sexual abuse in Catholic institutions, mostly concerning past allegations. During the same period, those newspapers ran four stories about the federal government's discovery of the much larger — and ongoing — abuse scandal in public schools." Sexual abuse of students in schools is likely more than 100 times greater in real numbers than the sexual abuse that rocked Roman Catholic Church and yet homeschool parents continue to be looked at as the backward ones because of their desire to shelter their children.
I will admit that better studies are needed, but the political will to investigate the issue on a national scale doesn't seem to be there. Why not? Remember the political and media uproar in the nation when allegations of sexual abuse by Catholic Priests was uncovered? CBS news reported that, "During the first half of 2002, the 61 largest newspapers in California ran nearly 2,000 stories about sexual abuse in Catholic institutions, mostly concerning past allegations. During the same period, those newspapers ran four stories about the federal government's discovery of the much larger — and ongoing — abuse scandal in public schools." Sexual abuse of students in schools is likely more than 100 times greater in real numbers than the sexual abuse that rocked Roman Catholic Church and yet homeschool parents continue to be looked at as the backward ones because of their desire to shelter their children.
Another point of debate I have come across, is the observation that so many of these cases turn out to be false but that stigma lives on for those innocent teachers forever. There may be something to that observation. Hardly an official study, but a poll by the Association of Teachers and Lecturers (ATL) revealed that a quarter of school staff had been falsely accused by a pupil of wrongdoing – such as slapping them or inappropriate sexual conduct – while one in six has faced malicious allegations from a pupil's family. Half of those questioned said there had been at least one false allegation in their current school."
I did find a number of stories of teachers who were falsely accused (here, here, and here), but do the cases of false accusation negate the concern that schools are not fostering a healthy safe environment? The very fact that some sexual assault cases are fabricated by students as a way to punish their teachers only unmasks another disturbing proof that American children are highly sexualized. Parents who work hard to protect their children's innocence and dignity by providing wholesome environments at home want to be confident that the environment at school won't undermine that effort. That confidence is deminished by the alarming stories of sexual abuse as well as the disturbing student behavior their children may be exposed to. While student behavior is not entirely the fault of school systems, it leads us to the next subject we will explore, are the influences of peers at school providing healthy socialization for a child? And further, what role are schools personnel and policy playing in condoning deviant student behavior?
Selected Teacher/Student sex scandal stories over past 2 years (THIS IS BY NO MEANS A COMPLETE LIST):
July 9, 2012 -- Teacher having sex in hotels with students
Sept 12, 2012 -- Two teachers have group sex with students
Aug 16, 2012 -- Another teacher having group sex with students
Oct 25, 2012 -- Teachers send naked tweets of themselves to students
Oct 25, 2012 -- Male teacher punches female student who refuses to have ex with him
Feb 25, 2013 -- Teacher offers to pay students for sex on Facebook
Mar 8, 2013 -- Female dance coach accused of having sex with a female student after every football game
Mar 14, 2013 -- A male assistant high school principle allegedly has sex with female student at prom
Sept 27, 2013 -- 6th grade female teacher was charged with committing lewd acts on a child and genital penetration by a foreign object
Oct 16, 2013 -- Male middle school principle rapes student in his office while the parents were outside his office
Jan 11, 2014 -- Female teacher pleads guilty to having sex with 14 year old student
Jan 23, 2014 -- Former female teacher is accused of sexually molesting 2 former female students
Jan 24, 2013 -- Married Female teacher has sex with a student at her home
Jan 29, 2014 -- Female teacher allegedly carries on lewd electronic communication with students that culminates in bedding the male student
Feb 21, 2014 -- Female teacher allegedly has oral sex with 13 year old student
Legal protections for students breaking down:
Mar 29, 2012 -- Arkansas Supreme Court says 18-year old students can have sex with their teachers
Feb 5, 2014 -- Texas court says sexting between student and teacher is protected by free speech
Feb 18, 2014 -- Legal loophole lets part-time teachers have a sex with students